The Maelstrom – Chapter 3.1

So many things preceded the storm. Things I haven’t mentioned. Things, the details of which seem so unimportant given my retrospective view, which forces me to evaluate what matters and what, ultimately, does not.

Photo_3.1The night Tim took his mother’s car, and challenged a friend to a race that ended with a care flight and a fractured vertebra, and which should have ended his life, but didn’t. The St. Patrick’s Day that same year, on which, unsupervised, all three children left the house with the dog to visit a friend, on a night, black as pitch. An innocent driver who was simply taking her family home didn’t see the family pet who ran into traffic striking her as my children looked on with no adult to assist them, save the attending police officer.

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The Quiet Period – Chapter 2.4

Tim expressed love to others by giving. He was quick to share both his possessions and his time and, in a group setting, typically thought of himself last. That particular reality makes this part of his story perhaps the most difficult to tell.

Photo_2.4I have become at ease with the once dreaded words “He passed.” I can now talk without losing my composure about the circumstance of his death and the circumstance when I received the news of his demise. I can now drive by the scene of his accident without grieving. All of those things are part of his story and they are the things on which I once focused in the aftermath of his passing, but they no longer torment me as they once did.

A much greater challenge for me today, is recalling what happened as the quiet period drew to a close. It began with what seemed like typical teenage rebellion, which I tried to dismiss as a phase brought on by the onset of male hormones—a boy growing into a man. Continue reading

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The Quiet Period – Chapter 2.3

Photo_2.3I’ve devoted more copy than I care to admit to the notion of spending time. Every moment now seems so precious, and I am continually reminded by my inner voice that it’s family who deserves that currency, whether biological or adopted.

As such, I was spending that time with my daughters by way of phone calls one evening. During the conversation with my youngest daughter, Ashley, I spontaneously extended an invitation. Continue reading

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