In the Beginning – Chapter 1.4

An immutable truth cannot be told except in its entirety. To truly understand a thing it must be examined from every perspective. Such is the case with the story of my son.

Photo_1.4_aLife is complicated and, for that reason, we want to distill it to a few digestible talking points; I suspect that is nothing new. I suspect with equal certainty, though, that this proclivity is compounded by the ease with which both information and possessions are both available and discardable.

We live in a time, place, and culture in which things are acquired, consumed, and discarded in brief moments that afford no real meaning in the aftermath. We order take-out and delivery and consume it in front of a lighted box displaying the edited lives of people we don’t know. We consume information about the complex world around us through 24-hour news outlets, which offer us one-dimensional bullet lists. We offer our children ready-made juice in a throw-away box, and teach them from text books that offer very little critical analysis of complex subjects. Continue reading

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In the Beginning – Chapter 1.3

It’s not a surprise to me that Tim’s sense that everyone mattered drove much of his behavior, both constructive and destructive. You can’t instinctively understand the value of others without an intrinsic sensitivity, which most of us associate with an equally intrinsic goodness. But it can also be a curse.

Tim_cSensitive individuals are often tormented by demons invisible to the rest of us, because the sword of sensitivity has two edges. We easily see the emotional sweetness in a child who is sensitive, but we often miss how easily they bleed with a cutting word.

We recognize the value when we see a child spontaneously come to the aid of another, or, unprompted, shares what he has with a child he just met. What we sometimes miss is the sudden dim of the eye when we lose our patience with him. We often overlook the sudden withdrawn demeanor after a difficult day. We grow annoyed with the ease with which laughter suddenly turns to tears. We don’t always understand what is behind the sudden outbursts. Continue reading

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In the Beginning – Chapter 1.2

In the beginning, Tim mattered for many reasons, not the least of which was his position as the first born of my generation within my family and that of my wife’s. As such, the hope and optimism that embraced us all, as Tim came into the world, was infectious.

Photo_1.2When a new life first appears, it is always a time of joy not only for parents, but for everyone they touch. In this circumstance, friends and family celebrate together with gatherings and phone calls and letters from distant loved ones. Such events are universally celebrated, and as I considered this book, I wondered what story I would tell.

There is nothing unique about the advent of a child. The joy, happiness, and excitement is universally present in every culture. What, then, is special here at the place I find myself, trying to tell his story? Continue reading

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